Finding happiness is the primary desire of all people everywhere. The choices we make in our lives are largely influenced by what we believe will make us happier. But what is happiness? And where is it to be found?
Is it a ‘thing’, an object that can be gained or lost? Is it a mindset? An emotion?
Or is happiness, as most spiritual teachers say, nothing more than our own unconditioned, authentic nature ...something that is ever-present within us but that we have somehow lost sight of?
And if so, then how to uncover it?
I have created this site on finding happiness to help you find your own answers to the questions above because, without knowing where to look, we can easily spend a lifetime searching in all the wrong places.
For the last 24 years, I have been offering workshops and coaching programs on a multitude of self-help related topics and it is my sincere hope that, through the articles on this website, my book Kick The Thinking Habit and my Free Your Mind Coaching program, I can help shine some light on your path to a happier life.
The site is divided into the following three main themes:
Happiness As A Mindset
Most people are about as happy as they decide to be - Abraham Lincoln
Finding happiness, to a great extent, comes from making this simple decision: "Today, whatever presents itself, I choose to be happy."
We can learn to consciously change how we habitually respond to the events that show up in our lives. Whatever we are experiencing in any given moment, there are always choices we can make which increase (or decrease) our level of happiness. Happy people consistently make choices which lean towards happiness.
See the following pages:
Changing Our Relationship With the Mind
For many people, the main barrier to finding happiness is the incessant mental chatter that goes round and round in their heads, especially when it is negative, fearful or self-critical.
Being subjected to the same old patterns relentlessly playing over and over in our heads like broken records can be highly stressful and make you want to pull your hair out.
Check out the following pages for some tips on dealing with an out of control mind.
Finding Happiness Beyond The Mind
Children are generally much more in touch with their original, unconditioned happy selves than adults are. Why is this?
There are two main reasons.
First, children have no pre-conceived ideas of what a happy life 'should' look like. They are not judging their present experience as unsatisfactory or waiting for things to change before they can be happy.
Secondly, most adults are so distracted by and habitually caught up in their busy minds that they simply fail to notice the peace and happiness which is always present beneath the movements of the mind.
Finding happiness is a bit of a misnomer. Recognising the happiness which is already there is what is needed. We are simply too busy thinking to notice.
When the mind is still, everything we seek is there. The best tool for achieving this is to find some form of regular meditation practice.
I hope you find the site both fun and enlightening. Please feel free to contact me with any questions, comments or just to say hi! :-)
You can email me at email@example.com to give me your thoughts.
Wishing you Peace and Happiness, Richard :)