Learn How To Forgive ...
For Your Own Peace OF Mind
How to forgive someone who has harmed, upset or angered you? Bearing grudges, maintaining icy relationships and holding resentment are significant barriers to experiencing inner peace and joy. Whether you feel justified in maintaining your position or not, the truth is that you are allowing something beyond your control (other people's actions) to pollute your inner space and rob you of your peace.
If you want to make peace your priority, it is essential to recognise that
No-one has the power to affect your state of mind unless you allow it.I know this may be contrary to many people's experience and you may be saying "yeah right... you don't know how bad this guy was!"
Nonetheless, until we recognise that we alone are responsible for our inner peace, it will always remain out of reach. Taking full responsibility for our own happiness is an immensely empowering thing.
A good question to ask yourself frequently is:
What is more important to me right now?
To be right or to be happy?
When we decide to make our inner peace our number one priority, then the question is not so much how to forgive but rather "do I have the strength of character and the willingness to forgive this person?" You are doing it for you, not for them. The more resistance you feel to letting go and offering forgiveness, the greater will be the resulting relief that you experience... holding anger, resentment etc is exhausting. I have discovered that I can ALWAYS let go, if I choose to... that it is a question of willingness rather than whether I can or not.
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