You have probably heard the phrase "what you resist persists."
Lets take a look at how it applies to your life."
Whenever we are experiencing discontentment or unhappiness, there is inevitably something that we are resisting. All suffering is caused by non-acceptance of what is. It may be a thought, a feeling, an emotion or a situation. You suffer when you want things to be different from how they are. What you resist persists.
Most of the time, it is NOT the experience itself that causes us pain and suffering, rather the resistance TO the experience. How you label the experience determines how you feel.
We are deeply conditioned from a young age to categorize our experiences into good and bad, right and wrong, desirable and undesirable.
Lets say you are feeling down. The mind will unconsciously label it as "bad."
In the absence of labeling, it is simply a feeling ...it may be uncomfortable but it is not a problem in itself.
There is nothing "wrong" with feeling sad ...unless the mind says so.
The typical commentary may be:
"What is wrong with me?, I wish I didn't feel like this, When is it going to go away?" How to be happy when we are battling against what is already there?
Through habit, the mind will also latch onto something as the cause of the feeling ...the girlfriend, the job, the weather ( a big one here in Scotland! )
Who knows what the real reason is? Often feelings of being flat or down have absolutely nothing to do with us. You could be picking up on the earthquake in Japan or your neighbours having an argument.
Conscious people experience the exact same thoughts and feelings as everyone else. The difference is the recognition that:
1. there is nothing wrong with whatever feeling is there
2. it is not personal... feelings simply appear by themselves
3. all feelings come and go so why bother about whatever shows up in this particular moment.
So, the secret to finding inner peace is to become aware of all you are resisting and to make the conscious choice to simple let it be as it is.
You can see how viewing your world in this way could allow an
experience of continuous contentment, regardless of what you are
experiencing. In fact, if you can truly say YES! to EVERY experience
there is no possibility of ever suffering.
Now, when you feel down, the commentary may be "Wow! This is interesting!" You feel sad but there is no problem.
So, to get back to the expression "What you resist persists." The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like.
Through resisting our experiences, we draw more of the same to ourselves. Through focusing on what you don't want, you attract more of it.
Worrying, for example, is praying for that which you don't want.
A far better (and infinitely more peaceful) approach is to consciously offer no resistance.
Simply acknowledge what is there, allow it to be there and know there is nothing "wrong" with it.
Be aware of any commentary about the experience. There is no need to fix or change anything. Wanting to fix it will create more of it. Simply seeing it is enough. Then see what happens!
If it is true that what you resist persists, the opposite is equally true ...namely, what you embrace dissolves.
Negative states persist because we give them energy and importance through giving them all of our attention. When we offer no resistance, they wither and fade away. And, even if they do remain, so what!
Dropping our resistance to what already and allowing the mind to do its thing without getting involved, are two of the key themes outlined in my book "Kick The Thinking Habit - How To Pull the Plug On An Overactive Mind To Reclaim Your Peace And Serenity".
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