What You Resist Persists
... say YES! to your problems and watch them melt away

You have probably heard the phrase "what you resist persists."
Lets take a look at how it applies to your life."

Whenever you are experiencing discontentment or unhappiness, there is something you are resisting. All suffering is caused by non-acceptance of what is. It may be a thought, a feeling, an emotion or a situation. You suffer when you want things to be different from how they are. What you resist persists.

Most of the time, it is NOT the experience itself that creates pain and suffering, rather the resistance TO the experience. How you label the experience determines how you feel.
what you resist persists

We are deeply conditioned from a young age to categorize our experiences into good and bad, right and wrong, desirable and undesirable.

Lets say you are feeling down. The mind will unconsciously label it as "bad."

In the absence of labeling, it is simply a feeling.... it may be uncomfortable but it is not a problem.

There is nothing "wrong" ... unless the mind says so!

The typical commentary may be "What is wrong with me?, I wish I didn't feel like this, When is it going to go away?" How to be happy when you have a combative relationship with what is?

Through habit, the mind will also latch onto something as the cause of the feeling.... the girlfriend, the job, the weather ( a big one here in Scotland hahaha)

Who knows what the real reason is? Often feelings of being flat or down have absolutely nothing to do with us. You could be picking up on the earthquake in Japan or your neighbours having an argument.

Conscious people experience the exact same feelings as everyone else. The difference is the recognition that:

1. there is nothing wrong with whatever feeling is there

2. it is not personal... feelings simply appear by themselves

3. all feelings come and go so why bother about whatever shows up in this particular moment..

So, resisting nothing is the real secret to finding inner peace. You can see how viewing your world in this way could allow an experience of continuous contentment, regardless of what you are experiencing. In fact, if you can truly say YES! to EVERY experience there is no possibility of ever suffering.

Now, when you feel down, the commentary may be "Wow! This is interesting!" You feel sad but there is no problem.

let go let god

So lets get back to the expression "What you resist persists." The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like.

Through resisting our experiences, we draw more of the same to ourselves. Through focusing on what you don't want, you attract more of it.

A far better (and infinitely more peaceful) approach is to consciously offer no resistance.

Simply acknowledge what is there, allow it to be there and know there is nothing "wrong" with it.

Be aware of any commentary about the experience. There is no need to fix or change anything. Wanting to fix it will create more of it. Simply seeing it is enough. Then see what happens!

If it is true that what you resist persists, the opposite is equally true... what you embrace dissolves.

Negative states persist because we give them energy and importance by focusing on them. When we offer no resistance, they wither and fade away. And, even if they do remain, so what!!!

Related Pages:
How To Stop Thinking / Addictive Thinking / Mind Over Mood / Non-Attachment / Finding Inner Peace

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