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Happiness Now E-zine, Issue #003 -- teaser here
September 01, 2012
Hello and welcome to the September edition of the
• WHY WE DON'T REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY • HAPPINESS COACHING WITH SKYPE
• WHY WE DON'T REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY
• HAPPINESS COACHING WITH SKYPE
My, how time flies! There is a definite chill in the air here in Scotland these last few days as we move slowly into Autumn. The heather is the hills is like a stunning blanket of bright purple.
I have been working on my next book, entitled "Awaken The Happy You," which will hopefully be out by the end of the year.
As I have been receiving more and more emails from afar as well as requests for information on happiness coaching, I feel it is time to set up a facility on the website to offer Skype calls. I just need to figure out the technicalities first! I would also love to add a forum to the site so we can chat in real time and so people can leave messages.
I hope you enjoy this month's article and, as always, I would love to hear from you.
Wishing you peace and happiness, Richard
WE DON’T REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY
In the happiness workshops I run, one of the first things I ask the group is the question: “Do you REALLY want to be happy?”
o be more grateful for what I already have
When I do my follow-up calls a couple of weeks later to see
how people are getting on, how many do you think have been
actively practising the items on their list?
And the truth is this:
Most people don’t REALLY want to be happy. Many will, of course, deny this but it is nevertheless true.
I have lost count of the number of people who have taken the
meditation weekend course (which I used to teach) and by the Sunday afternoon were saying things like: “This is
amazing. I have never experienced so much peace in my life. I
can’t believe it could be so simple.”
To let go of our familiar old story is to take a step into the
unknown. Our whole sense of identity, of who we are, is tightly
wrapped around the ideas and beliefs that we hold about ourselves, our lives and the world. Who would we be without a
story? Most people feel safer to stick with what is known. Even
if it is painful at times, at least it is safe and familiar.
There are also many (perceived) benefits, particularly when we
used to playing the victim role. It can be a way of getting attention or of standing out from the crowd. Nobody suffers in the same unique way that I do. It makes me special. If I was happy all the time, who would care about me? Drama can make our life more interesting. That was a big one for me. The mind can find it pretty dull just being content all the time.
By the way, it is a great step forward to see and acknowledge that we don't really want to be happy; that we are more interested in being comfortable. Seeing this, without any judgement, can be wonderfully liberating! There is nothing wrong with it. It is just how it is. Not good, not bad.
I am intending to get the Skype Coaching up and running over the next week or two so do keep checking the site if you are interested.
Wishing you a happy month!
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