The greatest obstacle to finding inner peace is the belief that there is something wrong with what we are experiencing right now or with the way our life is.That is pretty obvious, isn't it!
As long as we are rejecting our current experience and looking for a different one, we will never be content in this moment.
If only this were different... if only that would change ...then I could experience more peace.
The underlying belief is that, with my current set of thoughts, feelings or circumstances, finding inner peace is not possible.
My peace is dependent on something changing, on something being different.
So, we try to fix ourselves in different ways. Although therapy can undoubtedly offer many benefits, there is also a trap to be aware of. By focusing on what is wrong, therapy reinforces the idea that we are in some way broken and incapable of experiencing fulfillment now.
Have you heard the expression "what you resist persists?" By trying to push away the bad stuff or change it into better stuff, we are forever judging this moment as not good enough and therefore postponing our happiness. Whenever there is judgement or resistance we cannot be at peace with ourselves.
Not knowing any better, I also followed this approach for many years. It is a never ending path. If we focus on finding things to fix we will endlessly discover more. And when is the point reached when you think "OK, that is me done... now I can be happy?"
Finding inner peace involves giving up searching and choosing to be content, just as you are.
Inner peace is not found through self-improvement
It comes from self-acceptance
We are programmed with so many beliefs that we never stop to
For example "Feeling sad is a bad thing." or "There is something wrong with being angry."
Who says so? A little voice in your head does.
And the truth is that it is NOT the feeling of sadness that robs you of your peace ...it is the little commentator that tells you something is wrong.
The amazing thing is that you can experience sadness, depression or anxiety AND be completely at peace. If there is no judgement, then what is the problem?
Non-attachment to experiences that come and go is the key to experiencing ongoing peace.
Peace is experienced when we allow everything to be as it is without resistance, when we learn to say YES to every experience.
How do we achieve that? If you step out of yourself for a moment and objectively watch your own mind you will see what happens.
Say you are feeling down for example. First you are aware of the feeling and then comes the commentary "This is bad", "Will I never be free of this", "Everybody seems to be OK except me", "What on earth is wrong with me" and so forth.
The feeling in itself isn't that bad. It is the 'story' around the feeling that robs us of our peace.
Is an overactive mind robbing you of your inner peace and happiness?
In Kick The Thinking Habit,
I will share with you a host of practical steps that you can implement
straight away to pull the plug on a busy mind and reclaim the peace and
serenity you yearn for.
You will discover how overthinking
is mostly an unconscious habit that you can learn to drop and how the
key to experiencing ongoing peace lies, not in changing the mind itself,
but in changing how you relate to it.
Becoming aware of the commentator creates distance between you and the
commentary. When you watch the commentary objectively you are far less
involved. Instead of "This is bad" you may say "Aha, there is that crazy
little commentator again ...that's quite amusing!" Very different
Finding inner peace is not about changing any of the thoughts, feelings or emotions (that would be an endless task) but rather about changing your relationship with your mind. What we understand, we become free of. Through understanding how suffering is created, we become free of it. And if the lack of peace continues, you can allow that to be OK too!
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