Like a restless monkey jumping from branch to branch, the mind is always
on the move, producing up to 100,000 thoughts per day (astonishing,
With the frantic pace of life these days, the modern monkey mind is more like King Kong crashing through the jungle on amphetamines. It is little wonder that inner peace can seem difficult to find.
It is estimated that our brains are bombarded with seven times as
much stimuli as our grandparents experienced.
Add to this the rising stress levels caused by increased
working hours and longer traffic jams and it is
a wonder that many people can cope at all.
The good news, however, is that, no matter how busy the mind is and how distant the prospect of finding inner peace seems, it is always there, right under our noses (actually above our noses).
We just need to know where to look.
Finding happiness and inner peace is an uncovering process. They are not experiences to be gained anew. When we strip away that which is covering it up, (the main thing being our addiction to thinking) we discover that the peace we are seeking has been there all along.
My days used to go something like this.
i would finish eating breakfast without noticing the food because monkey mind was already thinking about the day's schedule. I would then arrive at work with no recollection of getting there, having been lost in obsessive thinking. At work, I was busy planning the weekend. My mind was never where my body was.
I was rarely present here
and now, which is the only place where peace and joy are to be found.
I remember taking my daughter to the park when she was about
three years old. She pointed to the sky and excitedly squealed
"airplane". I hadn't even noticed the park - which is amusing in a way but
also tragic at the same time.
This is why children experience so much joy. Being largely free of mental chatter, they are absolutely present in the here and now. Their monkey minds have not developed yet.
In truth, happiness never leaves us. We are simply unaware of the happiness which is always there, through being constantly distracted by our monkey minds. We can only notice the wonder and the beauty that surrounds us when we are present.
Is an overactive mind robbing you of your inner peace and happiness?
In Kick The Thinking Habit,
I will share with you a host of practical steps that you can implement
straight away to pull the plug on a busy mind and reclaim the peace and
serenity you yearn for.
You will discover how overthinking
is mostly an unconscious habit that you can learn to drop and how the
key to experiencing ongoing peace lies, not in changing the mind itself,
but in changing how you relate to it.
At times, everyone has, what psychologist Abraham Maslow, calls peak experiences.
I will never forget a visit to The Shetland Islands many years ago. I was fortunate enough to witness what many of the locals described as the most spectacular display of the Northern Lights they had seen in years.
Just for a moment, as I gazed upon the spectacle, my mind was stunned into silence. A profound feeling of connection and well-being swept over me. In that perfect moment I felt utterly at peace - with no sense of anything missing.
A moment later, a thought appeared: "I must phone my partner and tell her. As I re-engaged with the mind, the experience was gone.
And that is how it works. In the absence of thinking, the bliss which is our true nature is experienced.
It is still there when we are lost in our monkey mind but we are simply too distracted to notice.
I'll answer with a story. There was a village in India which was
infested with monkeys. They were a real problem. They were not afraid of
the villagers and would go into the houses looking for for food and
occasionally attack people.
The villagers carried long sticks with them which they used to beat the monkeys and try to chase them away. This only annoyed the monkeys more. They tried everything.
They boarded up the doors and windows to keep the monkeys out. Sometimes they would catch one in a net and take it out of the village but they would always return looking for food. The villagers were at their wits end.
One day a holy man entered the village and observed what was going on. He laughed and said "I have another solution. Why don't you try planting a banana plantation on the outskirts of the village and see what happens."
The villagers followed his advice. And it worked. The monkeys were more interested in the delicious bananas and happily rested in the trees, leaving the villagers in peace.
You may have heard the expression "what you resist persists."
As long as we fight against the monkey mind, we give it more energy and
make it stronger. As long as we try to beat our thoughts away with
sticks we make them bigger.
In my work as a coach, I have met so
many people who have tried one therapy after another to find a
solution to their depression, anxiety or unhappiness. Five years can
pass with little change. This is because focusing on the problem only
makes it bigger. It is a paradox that by trying to find happiness we
only push it further away.
I have also seen people cured of
lifelong depression in a one-hour session ...simply through seeing that
the mind is not the problem, rather our relationship to it.
Awareness is the key. Through understanding how the mind works, our relationship with monkey mind changes and we become free of the influence of thinking.
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