Finding Happiness
Richard Paterson  author, coach and mindfulness teacher

Finding happiness is the primary desire of all people everywhere. The choices we make in our lives are largely influenced by what we believe will make us happier.

But what is happiness?  And where is it to be found?

Is it a ‘thing’, an object that can be gained or lost?  Is it a mindset?  An emotion?  

Or is happiness, as most spiritual teachers say, nothing more than our own own unconditioned, authentic nature ...something that is ever-present within us but that we  have somehow lost sight of?

And if so, then how to uncover it?

For the last 25 years, I have been offering workshops and coaching programs on a multitude of self-help related topics and it is my sincere hope that, through the articles on this website, my book Kick The Thinking Habit and my Free Your Mind Coaching program, I can help shine some light on your path to a happier life. 

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Is an overactive mind robbing you of your inner peace and happiness?

In Kick The Thinking Habit, I will share with you a host of practical steps that you can  implement straight away to pull the plug on a busy mind and reclaim the peace and serenity you yearn for.

You will discover how overthinking is mostly an unconscious habit that you can learn to drop and how the key to experiencing ongoing peace lies, not in changing the mind itself, but in changing how you relate to it.

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The site is divided into the following three main themes:

Happiness As A Mindset

Most people are about as happy as they decide to be - Abraham Lincoln

Finding happiness, to a great extent, comes from making this simple decision: "Today, whatever presents itself, I choose to be happy."

We can learn to consciously change how we habitually respond to the events that show up in our lives. Whatever we are experiencing in any given moment, there are always choices we can make which increase (or decrease) our  level of happiness. Happy people consistently make choices which lean towards happiness.

See the following pages:

definition of happiness         how to be happy          happiness is a choice 


Changing Our Relationship With the Mind

For many people, the main barrier to finding happiness is the incessant mental chatter that goes round and round in their heads, especially when it is negative, fearful or self-critical.

Being subjected to the same old patterns relentlessly playing over and over in our heads like broken records can be highly stressful and make you want to pull your hair out.

Check out the following pages for some tips on dealing with an out of control mind.

how to stop thinking               dealing with a monkey mind              addictive thinking

Finding Happiness Beyond The Mind 

Children are generally much more in touch with their original, unconditioned happy selves than adults are. Why is this?

There are two main reasons.

First, children have no pre-conceived ideas of what a happy life 'should' look like. They are not judging their present experience as unsatisfactory or waiting for things to change before they can be happy.

Secondly, most adults are so distracted by and habitually caught up in their busy minds that they simply fail to notice the peace and happiness which is always present beneath the movements of the mind.

Finding happiness is a bit of a misnomer. Recognising the happiness which is already there is what is needed. We are simply too busy thinking to notice.

When the mind is still, everything we seek is  there. The best tool for achieving this is to find some form of regular meditation practice.

mindful meditation      the benefits of meditation       happy here and now  


I hope you find the site both fun and enlightening.  Please feel free to contact me with any questions, comments or just to say hi! :-)

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Wishing you Peace and Happiness, Richard :)

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